Growing Pains

I remember well having growing pains as a young girl growing up. These were physical pains. The pain I want to talk about is the pain of not being real. The pain of pretense. Living in a way that causes pain & sadness deep within your being.

It’s because you are not being who you really are, either because you fear rejection or, you are just so dead within.

I have been considering the matter of pain for quite some time.  There is the pain of regret, and pain of discipline, I want to add another, the pain of not being genuine.

All of us as humans have a desire to be loved and completely accepted for who we are. To be in a relationship of total love and acceptance.

Sometimes, we think we are loved because we believe the words spoken to us instead of really looking at the actions as well or instead of.

People always act according to how they feel. Our emotions fuel our actions.

We really need to consider our thought life, what kind of thoughts are directing our actions?

I know, as humans we can mess up, but hear me in this.

People are creatures of habit when they show you over and over again who they are, believe them.

Look in the mirror today and speak the truth about how you feel about you.  Are you being the best you can be?

From the truth go forward, we have all been given a sense of life within us, a conscience, gut instinct.

This was put into you by your creator and is not a lie!! Hear the speaking!

Pray for light in your situation, believe me, the God of light will hear and answer your heart’s cry.

I believe in you!




Being real, authentic, words we hear a lot these days but with all the craziness of life and so many distractions, how is it possible? And if it is attainable, how on earth can we develop the quality of being genuine?

First, we need, to be honest with ourselves. Speak the truth.

Do you have clear set boundaries? Personal. emotional. spiritual?

Being genuine is being congruent with what you believe and how you act. This is the first part of change being honest.

If you say one thing and do another on the other side of the scale, you are double minded. Not much authenticity there. Actually kind of wishy-washy.

In order to change anything, there must first be a decision to change, this requires total honesty.

Real solid change happens when light shines on the thing that needs to change.


Get in a quiet place, go for a walk early in the morning alone. Yes go alone, be quiet as you walk. Notice the nature around you. Listen for the still small voice within.

Consider, pray about where you are in your life now.

Ask yourself,  are you happy with you? Are you doing your best in all that you do?

Be honest! If you want to seek to be genuine, it starts with you.  What do you believe about your current situation? Are you open to change?

Change is hard but so is staying the same. We get to pick our hard

Be brutally honest today, when you do this, it’s the first step.

Till next time,