People Pleaser?

As I consider my life up to this point, I  realize much of it has been in the “People Pleasing” state.  What do I mean by that? Living to be accepted by others and in doing so, not being fully who I was created to be.

That is quite a revelation considering that I am now in my 50’s.  I wonder if it has much to do with my growing up years or?

However in came about, I think it’s that age old fear of rejection. Saying what people want to hear not what is really in your heart to say.

I have recently come to realize if we are not being true to who we are, we are not being truly genuine.

To be true to you requires courage and when you are true to you, to that deep down part of you, something wonderful happens,

You begin to develop self-respect, and when you do that, others will respect you.

When you shine, you give others permission to shine!

Make it a truly beautiful day friends!

Be YOU!  There is no one on the earth with your gift!








Be True To You

In this time of so many distractions, it can be difficult to just be quiet and consider who you are.

It’s possible to just keep so busy that only time passes and you stop and wonder. Am I really living the life that I am meant to live? Am I really, truly being genuine?

Am I being true to my spirit deep within? Or, am I in the ever popular people pleasing mode because you know, what will they think of me if I…..

It takes courage, to be honest. Because it may require change, and who likes change?

This is a question that is difficult to answer, it’s difficult because depending on how you answer it, may require change.

It’s funny how that fear works because unless you are an innate object, you will change, all living things change, the difference is you can embrace the change or you can run from it.

I have found that fear of change = comfort zone.

I also realize that comfort zones = dying.

I was listening to a talk on Youtube the other day and it was about regrets, He said if you fast forward your life say, 20 years and you regret not making the decision that you are struggling with, it’s time to do the opposite. Make that decision no matter how scary it is, Regret is scarier I promise.


Till next time,







Look for the blessings

Here it is the day after my birthday, I won’t say how young only to say I was guessed to be 45. 🙂 I will take it.   Unexpected compliments are blessings. 🙂

I work at a hospital casual on call just to keep busy and I really enjoy being around people  This position is a blessing.

I have realized today that I have many people in my life that care for me and support me going through a tough personal time.  Another blessing.

As I went through today, I choose to count my blessings. They were many.

I realized how much time I have spent focusing on the negatives. Time to change that.

When it’s raining out,  the sun is always above the clouds, we can’t always see it, but it’s there.

As I was out and about today, I heard the birds singing,,,, Yes they were singing in the rain,  they were not complaining but singing. 🙂

I spent my day today with special ladies from my church group and was cherished. It was lovely to enjoy cake and coffee and yes we did pray together. Another blessing.

Hint: Prayer works to keep our focus on being thankful and also help us to cease from judging others as we instead pray for them.

Later, after my shift at the hospital, I enjoyed being spoiled by my oldest daughter and my youngest son. I am blessed.

As I sit and contemplate my life, I am excited about the future, Why?  Because I  see how much I have been given.  I am blessed

So, basically, I am encouraging you no matter where you are or what you are going through, look for the blessings and as you do, you will be empowered, and encouraged.

It is changing your focus from looking “down” to looking  “up” It really makes a difference in your whole being.

Try it, I would love to hear your feedback.

Till next time,