Look for the blessings

Here it is the day after my birthday, I won’t say how young only to say I was guessed to be 45. ūüôā I will take it. ¬† Unexpected compliments are blessings. ūüôā

I work at a hospital casual on call just to keep busy and I really enjoy being around people  This position is a blessing.

I have realized today that I have many people in my life that care for me and support me going through a tough personal time.  Another blessing.

As I went through today, I choose to count my blessings. They were many.

I realized how much time I have spent focusing on the negatives. Time to change that.

When it’s raining out, ¬†the sun is always above the clouds, we can’t always see it, but it’s there.

As I was out and about today, I heard the birds singing,,,, Yes they were singing in the rain, ¬†they were not complaining but singing. ūüôā

I spent my day today with special ladies from my church group and was cherished. It was lovely to enjoy cake and coffee and yes we did pray together. Another blessing.

Hint: Prayer works to keep our focus on being thankful and also help us to cease from judging others as we instead pray for them.

Later, after my shift at the hospital, I enjoyed being spoiled by my oldest daughter and my youngest son. I am blessed.

As I sit and contemplate my life, I am excited about the future, Why?  Because I  see how much I have been given.  I am blessed

So, basically, I am encouraging you no matter where you are or what you are going through, look for the blessings and as you do, you will be empowered, and encouraged.

It is changing your focus from looking “down” to looking ¬†“up” It really makes a difference in your whole being.

Try it, I would love to hear your feedback.

Till next time,

 

KP

Emotional IQ

Strange that I would use this picture with the topic. Yes at first, but lets get into the meaning of emotional IQ then possibly you might see where I am going with this.

What exacctly is Emotional IQ?

Emotional intelligence (EI) or emotional quotient (EQ) is the capacity of individuals to recognize their own, and other people’s emotions, to discriminate between different feelings and label them appropriately, to use emotional information to guide thinking and behavior, and to manage and/or adjust emotions to adapt enviroments or achieve one’s goal(s).[1]  Wikipedia 

From the above definition, it says to manage ones emotions. 

Have you ever been in a situation where a “small” seemingly insignificant matter causes a huge upset in you or another person?

If we allow smańļl, insignificant things to cause huge upets in our being, it may be time to consider taking action to calm ourself. Hence, the above picture of nature, quiet, and if you go early enough, its a fresh, crisp new day to spend quiet time with you and your thoughts. I like to go early in the morning, express gratitude, pray for my family and the day ahead.

While walking consider your own feelings and how to express them in a thoughtful, caring way.

Naming feelings can be challenging for those of us who feelings  were not validated growing up. -That’s another topic.

For today, take care of your emotions in a healthy way,.

Walk, write, whatever helps you to share those emotions. 

Till next time,

KP



The Future Is NOW

As I ponder the past couple of weeks, I consider how I am spending my days..

Am I making decisions that are emotionally based or, are they carefully considered with the end in view?

Very often, we make decisions that are based out of fear, or some false belief.

A decision was made and two years later, are you still feeling good about it?

I have learned that if my gut instinct is feeling no then, I must speak my no otherwise, a decision is made, and regrets come.

I am learning ¬†through this experience that letting go, releasing those “would have”, “should haves” are also ¬†important for moving forward.

Our learning always happens when mistakes are made. Always

Every choice we make, action we take, will have a future result.

Take eating, if I carelessly put anything into my mouth, I will end up sick or just plain tired with no energy to do what I need to do.

Life without planning is no life at all

Are you planning for your nest egg? If not now, when?

If you fail to plan, plan to fail

What does the next five years look like for you?

Start an action plan by writing down 3 goals for the next five years.

There is something that happens when   you write your goals down,

start dreaming again.

Dare to dream again,

KP

React or Respond?

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I have heard that what we focus on actually grows, and when it does, we shouldn’t be surprised at the harvest we get.

Look at your life now. It’s a culmination of every belief, and choice that you have made because of those beliefs… Sobering right?

We can look at any aspect of our life and see the “results” of our beliefs..

I have been working on controlling my emotions rather that letting them dictate my actions, I have to admit, according to ¬†my present situation, it’s a result of living according to my emotions.

I have avoided doing the things that I said I would do by making excuses based on how i feel at the moment, ” I don;t feel like it” I’m tired” ….. ¬†it’s like saying “The dog ate my homework.”

I don’t know about you, but when I stick to my word and do what I said I was going to do, I always feel¬†confident..

This is key to everything..

How then should I respond to the fact that I can control my emotions?

Something happened the other day. I had to a “talk” myself out of a very negative reaction.

I could literally feel every cell getting riled up.. I decided that I was going to control this emotion. Not react, wait and  consider the truth of the voice I was hearing..

We all have two voices speaking in our mind  we get to choose which on we will listen to.

In the past, I would have reacted but this time I waited, and quietly considered.

I choose to think well of the dear ones in my life instead of looking for the negatives and judging .. I choose to understand first.

I ruled over my negative emotions. What a feeling!!

To respond with understanding instead of reacting according to my negative emotions.

What are you working on this week? Pick one thing to improve on and watch your world change.

 

Have a wonderful, week

KP

Its About Letting Go

Its been 6 months since I declared that I was going to start blogging again.

Well, a lot has happened in 6 months, family activities, helping my daughter get adjusted to her new situation.

I need to learn to prioritize things that are important to me and just do it!

Life has a way of bringing us forward, even though we often times fight change.  Change happens and in order for me to grow, I need to embrace it, lean into it. instead of fight it.

My youngest just turned 19 and with that comes letting go. That’s the tough part but I also realize that the more I try to “control” things, ¬†people, I usually ruin things and relationships. So, I am leaning that I am really not in control anyways.. I just need to let go and Let God be God.